Friday, January 20, 2012

The Kung Fu Panda

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This is in response to a comment made on this post in which a reader has fretted that this blog is turning into a mommy blog and s/he is not very pleased about it. Since a few others too have called this a mommy blog ever since I started writing about GBM (though some of them were happy about that), I thought I should say something about it.

Here's some news: I passed out of college a long time ago.

The Gounder Brownie blog (the first one) was started when my biggest problems in life were professors who didn't know how many lines made a sonnet. It's been close to eight years since then and yes, I've changed. I mean, what do you expect? I wasn't eighty when I started that blog for the posts to have the same theme of laughter club meetings for eight years. From 18 to 26, quite a few things have changed in life and it's only natural that it should affect what I write about and how I write it. I'm no longer as apoplectic as I used to be and I believe it's better for my health and my writing, too. Yup, I've even reached that stage in life when I care about my health. Who would have thought. I'll be appearing in Olay ads next.

And to those who are getting antsy about the amount of attention GBM is getting here, here's a gist of my life the past year:

3 months of nausea and migraines, 3 months of hyperventilating about suspected Hypertension, 3 months of severe heartburn and lack of sleep. One horrendous day of pain when I discovered what pain actually is. Six weeks of recovery from a major operation when I barely managed to sleep.

And right now, working my ass off in between feeding GBM and changing nappies to keep my sanity.

You see, I've put in so much effort into getting this kid out of me hale and hearty that I'd be damned if I'm going to pretend this subject doesn't interest me. Or act like I'm not insanely proud of it. This is easily my biggest accomplishment- physically, mentally, emotionally and though motherhood might be common enough, it's pretty uncommon to me. GBM also happens to look like me and there's nobody more fascinating to me as myself. So be sure that you are going to hear a lot about her over here. If that makes me parochial, so be it. So was Jane Austen. Heh.

That said, no, I'm not going to write only about GBM here. There will come a time, I hope, when I'm able to take a leisurely bath, watch movies, read books, meet annoying people, eat out, go on trips, attend job interviews, have colleagues, hang out with my friends, have long conversations, write blog posts without interruption, and so on. When all that happens, I might start writing about it. For now, I will stick to writing about what I'm experiencing. Like I always have.

We were all babies once. Not brinjals. I find it enlightening to watch the journey that I once made play out right before my eyes. It offers me a perspective that I greatly value. This is not to say that I've become a Zen Master. This is to say I've become a Kung Fu Panda. I'm blundering my way into wisdom. And this is the big screen where that story is playing out. Too bad if you don't like the show.

63 comments:

R's Mom said...

Arey GB, why do you have to give an explanation to Anon commenters..gah! you go and please write about GBM...we are happy and sometimes jealous (Jeez the kid sleeps 7 hours in the night!) but we are proud as well :) whoever loves reading you will read you just because of the lovely way to write :)

Sowmya Srikrishnan said...

Don't comment often, but like this post. Very much. Go on!

Nithvin said...

This blog has been around for eight years!Aww GB,how early I have stumbled upon them :(
But I see archives only from 2008 onwards..is it possible to share your older blogs here by any chance..

Srinivas said...

"We were all babies once. Not brinjals." - that says it all I surmise :) Good one! Keep writing.

Bhargavi said...

Way to go! Write what you have to and we'll lap it up anyway :-) I have a sneaking suspicion motherhood will be my biggest achievement too, so I am going to shamelessly go ahead and blog about heartburns and waddles.

Anonymous said...

The blog is mighty interesting no matter what u write abt. It's YOUR blOg
Madhu

Shammi said...

I've always thought that even as a young 'un you showed uncommon writing talent (sadly I don't know you personally), and this (your talent) has only improved over the years. Continue to write about whatever strikes your fancy, Mother Brownie - as long as you continue to be funny, I for one will have no complaints! :)

Gymnast said...

Hey GB ,

I know i am one among those people who said your blog is turning into a mommy blog. But i never once said i minded reading it for a minute..

I was just merely stating what i felt.

I don't understand why you're so defensive about it. Your blog , your wish.. and if i cant relate to something i/anyone can just skip that post!

Now i almost feel like a villi for speaking my mind.

semi said...

Sitting in the front row eagerly! xD

GB said...

@R's Mom- Thank you :) I'm going to copy-paste all your tiger-fish stories on a Word file for future reference!

@Sowmya- Thanks!

@Nithvin- Those posts were on an old url that I deleted in a moment of kolaveri :D

@Srini and Madhu- Thanks!

@Shammi- I'm still a young 'un though I'm a mother and all :P And thank you!

@Gymnast- I wasn't referring to your comment at all. The post was in response to someone who'd actually said I should stop writing about GBM because that would make this a mommy blog. I don't mind being called a mommy blogger but I don't like the condescending attitude that some people have towards one (again, not referring to you). I wasn't getting defensive in my post- I'm merely clarifying what my blog is like and will be like. Everyone's allowed to speak their mind here...including me :)

@Semi- Awwww :P

Shachi said...

They say mommies who blog feel much better about pulling through those very difficult first few months than those who don't. So go ahead and do it :). I find myself disagreeing and moving on quite a bit after becoming a mom....I don't confront as much coz it does not lead anywhere...you may find that too, especially if it comes from people who don't have kids coz they have absolutely no idea. So feel free to do the same.

Sachita said...

1. I like mommy blogs ( I am not even married)
2. mommy blog or not, the only thing it matters is the writing should be interesting - you have no worries there.

PS: besides GBM is at a lot more interesting stage than any of us - tht includes you :)

Sindhu Shankar said...

I am also one of those who whined this is turning into a mommy blog. That's because I am at a 'just out of college' phase in life and don't understand it. Maybe when I am a mom, I'll come back, read these posts and totally feel you. Until then, I'm happy re-reading your old posts. Only wish from time to time that your first GB blog was also there to read.

Also,bwahahahaha.... "We were all babies once. Not brinjals." - #epic.

Anonymous said...

Aw - Come on GB.

-Uncle OT

Another Wanderer said...

You make me smile in so many ways :)

murali said...

Hi GB, I have been a silent reader of your blog for sometime. Though there were times when I felt like commenting, I refrained from doing so. However, this post did compel me to comment. The blog is YOUR personal space. You are entitled to write about whatever you want and NO-ONE has any right to dictate or even suggest what you need to write on.

Don't encourage such comments by giving them a response. Its not worth it. My humble request to you, just keep writing, about anything that you feel like writing. You are at your best when you do it.

In my personal opinion, writing about GBM brings out the best in you.

Murali.

smartassbride said...

I read that comment and it made me laugh. I'm glad you responded, though, otherwise where will I get to read the "we were babies once. Not brinjals"? :D

I'll never understand why people feel this compulsive need to come and let you know that a particular topic doesn't interest them when they can click that "X" and move on to so many other blogs that will surely cater to what they most relate to.

And it's not like bloggers are cable TV operators who collect Rs.100 every month - at least that would give you a right to moan if you are not okay with the channels :D may be we should start collecting that 100 rs.

vishesh said...

I like you as a person hence I read this blog whatever you write. I remember your earlier blog, it showed me how to deal with a world which was both new and fascinating to me. It is nice to see you evolve and write about what is happening in your life. Yes, this looks like a Mommy blog now, but there is nothing wrong with that is it?

GB said...

@Shachi,Sindhu, smartassbride, Uncle OT, vishesh- My blog has always been my best outlet for everything going on in life...so yes, I do feel better when I blog about being a mother too. I just find it absurd that when I was blogging about marriage or M(because I'd just got married then), nobody called this a 'wifey blog', but this has suddenly become a 'mommy blog' just because I write about my child here too. Not everyone who reads this blog reads/writes children's literature, edits, is married, or lives in Pune etc. And yet, there are no objections or the need to categorize my blog as something when I write about all those topics. But apparently, writing about your child immediately turns you into an un-relatable mommy blogger. It's not as if I'm raising a mushroom on an alien planet.

More than the categorization, it's the implied condescension in it that annoys me- the same attitude that gets extended to housewives and stay-at-home mothers.

@Murali- Thank you for delurking and sharing your views. And yes, I will always write about only what I care for. Playing to the galley can kill your writing even before you start- that's one lesson I will never forget.

GB said...

@Murali- *gallery

GB said...

@Sachita & Another Wanderer- Thank you :)

Anonymous said...

Hi GB,
I totally agree with Murali."Medium Boss is the life and work of Gounder Brownie." I am eagerly waiting for your new posts. Please don't delete any posts in 'kolaveri'. I miss your old posts. I use to read then often when I need to recharge myself.

Anonymous said...

How can you not sing your most beautiful song in your life? Go ahead and sing it aloud,sing it often, as always in your swanda kuralil.
When one is connected to one's own core where is the question of suspending the motherhood just to convince that your are not a mommy blogger.Only women who use their children to define their existence may have to do it.Even there a condescending attitude is not fair. .Those women need some real moments of self-reflection to balance out how much of themselves they give away.
Investing in thinking aloud usually earns good interest.It is like walking inside yourself.The spiritual [ not to be confused with the religious, of course] dimension of this whole experience can sustain your health.Just try to be aware always,joyfully too!

munimma said...

paraphrasing an old friend, "balls to them"! We write best when we write about what we feel the most. As long as you write, I won't complain.

chandrima said...

Bang on!! Keep going! This is your own space. It is you who will decide how to decorate the space.

Ramya said...
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Ramya said...

HUGS
I will be all ears to hear your stories be it on anything :D

And ofcourse giving birth is the biggest accomplishment of ones life.
Be PROUD of it :D

Love all your writings no matter what you write about :D
I sort of have a feeling that even if you write A-Z in a line and post it here, I will be the one loving it ;) crazy fan of yours!

GB said...

@Anon 1- Thank you. I will not delete this blog for sure...I was a bit of a dumbass back then.

@Amma- Thank you, mummyji. I didn't know you knew about the swanda kuralil rendition...did Niv tell you about it?!!

@Munima, Chandrima, Ramya- Thank you very much!

@Anon-who-deleted-the-comment- I'm posting this only because I have a feeling you might check back to see if I've responded. I'm not pasting your comment here since I respect your decision to post and delete, but I think I should reply.

If I believed only in encouraging appreciative comments, I wouldn't allow anonymous and non-moderated responses on my blog. Even when I've been in flame wars (not yet on this blog but my old one used to have some of those), I've never enabled any kind of censorship. Just as you are free to dislike anything written on this blog, I'm free to issue a clarification too. I'm a little tired of this old-GB Vs new-GB blog thing. If you found me funny back then and not so much now, I'm fine with that...what I was addressing in this post is the very nature of this blog which you questioned- i.e. is it a mommy blog or not.

Please feel free to comment without having to delete or give yourself a name. This blog is a free space and will always be so.

Anonymous said...

umm, i posted the second time and it seems to be gone again... either i have lost it or my comments are getting self deleted??... whatever...

GB said...

@Anon- Lol...I have no idea what's happening. Your comments get delivered to my inbox but when I get here to reply, I don't see anything! I swear I'm not deleting anything! Anyway, I'm reposting whatever it is that you'd said:

Comment 1: i am not sure if you are refering to my post GB, hope you didn't feel bad about it and i mean it sincerely.
1. i genuinely enjoyed your blog because of the irreverence.
2. in last few posts, i noticed all that was discussed was motherhood, and i noticed the irreverence was missing/ less. leading to certain people ONLY- who found the blog to be less enjoyable- self included.
3. there is no 'condensending attitude' here. world has moved on and nobody in their right mind looks down upon 'stay at home moms' or 'homemakers' anymore.
so there were comments....
4. And its just a comment folks- just like all the comments in which we applaud, chuckle and congratulate the blogger, this is also a comment!!!
3. GB, honestly, I thought you would react (if at all)by being irreverent about it. now i am thinking maybe posts which are appreciated here are only " wow" "aaawwww" " keep on" categories!!!
4. Just like you shouldn't be expected to change your writing for a few comments , your readers should also have a freedom to like and dislike certain things in your blog, and be able to comment openly. i really thought from your blog that this would be the case... but its obviously not!!i will keep on checking the blog since i genuinely liked it once.

cheers

Comment 2: from the anon who deleted the post... i know this sounds terribly lame-- but i must have made some mistake and deleted it... in fact when i checked back and didn't see it- i thought maybe my comments were not published and 'removed by the administrator' or something... so much for the self importance of a technically hopeless anon...( pls do paste my comment back )
anyways, so dear GB - my only point was- yes, everybody has freedom to express... you are a very good writer- and i enjoyed your writing so much... its your blog and you have every right to write about anything under the sun...i am not sitting here to deconstruct your writing...having said this i do hope that we do have the irreverence and wackiness back.. even those who delete their own posts by mistake can hope that.. hopefully...


There...happy?

Anonymous said...

oh dear GB, i wish the time never comes when all it takes to me make me happy is when administrator puts my comments on boards ..
i just wondered how did my comments, which were unpalattable kept on disappearing...
but shit happens!!

GB said...

@Anon- Dude/dudette- Do you see a comment deleted by administrator over here?! And neither is there any comment moderation on this blog for me to selectively publish your comments. Trust me, I'm no techno-whiz who can work such miracles on blogger. I'm just about getting around to replying to emails and comments on my blog this week, so I really don't have the time to sit and play tricks. Anyway, you will either believe me or you won't. Have a good day!

Jane's Ire said...

I always drop by but rarely comment. I have to say I LOVE your posts - the side splitting ones I've often shared on FB. I think it's brilliant you continued to write just after delivery. Please don't stop...or change. Not that I ever thought you would :o)

GB said...

@Jane's Ire- Thank you :) I'm glad I continued with the writing too though it's been really hard to keep at it with so little time on my hands. But I do value my sanity, so I had to come back here!

GB said...

@Anon- For what it's worth:

http://blogging.nitecruzr.net/2011/09/blog-readers-report-comments-supposedly.html

I don't know if this is the issue you are facing. It's dated September'11 though...

N said...

You should just remember to tell Puduki who the real Kung Fu Panda, godditttt?

Vini said...

I come here for lines like "Babies not brinjals" because that's classic GB and independent of context - So cheers to that :)

I thought I will start a separate blog for the little one that I am expecting next month but then decided against it precisely for the reason that a blog is a being-space and not an almirah rack. My only concern is that my little one will not be little in a few years and when he/she reads the rest of the posts is *very likely* to exclaim "Really?!"

Anonymous said...

hey gb, will check it out. thanks.

mayflower said...

Don't know how I reached your blog, but so glad that I did. Great post this. "This is to say I've become a Kung Fu Panda. I'm blundering my way into wisdom. And this is the big screen where that story is playing out" too much awesome I say!!! :). Cant wait to get started on the other posts....

GB said...

@N- How about showing your face first here, ehhh. And come with more pictures.

@Vini- All the best to you!! Parents rarely shock their children, so don't worry :D

@Anon- Okie.

@Mayflower- Thank you :) And Welcome.

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